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Media dictates so much in today's world -- including relationships.

Whether portraying unrequited love, forbidden love or passionate love, the media's ideas of love all have something in common: drama.

After all, drama drives the media.

But, guess what? When you're in a dramatic relationship, this reality isn't so appealing. Dramatic relationships are just plain sh*tty, and there's nothing romantic or alluring about that.

Real relationships, to be quite honest, could almost be considered boring, and the media doesn't value "boring."

For years, I bought into the idea that a relationship needed some type of drama to be legitimized. As I'm settling down, I'm realizing how truly wrong and exhausting that mentality was.

For the first time in... well, ever, I'm in a healthy, mature relationship. It's different than previous relationships I've had because this one is real. It is solid. It is stable. It is everything I've ever wanted, and everything I didn't know I needed.

It's also everything I ran away from in the past because it just seemed too "boring." Only now am I realizing that there is a difference between a boring relationship and a stable, mature one.

Maybe this is obvious, but it shouldn't be the case. Being someone's partner should come easily rather than feel like a chore or a responsibility.

Actually, it's even nice. I love my boyfriend, but if I talked to him constantly, I'd go crazy.

In a healthy relationship, changing your partner shouldn't even be a desire on your radar. Changing annoying little habits is one thing, but changing or fixing who someone is as a person should not be your goal. Maybe he or she isn't perfect, but he or she shouldn't have to be.

When you don't agree on a topic, it isn't the end of the world. You acknowledge each other's positions and move on.

In an adult relationship, plans can be made months in advance without stopping to wonder where the relationship will or won't be.

Adjusting to this was difficult at first, but now that we know each other's style of disagreement, we are able to communicate in a more mature manner.

Over time, I've realized that this is preferable to hearing it all the time. Sometimes love is in the day-to-day actions rather than the literal words, and this is definitely a more mature viewpoint.

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