Kicking 'em out: how can we word our "zero argument" drama-free wedding rule?

Kicking 'em out: how can we word our "zero argument" drama-free wedding rule?

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"Obviously no one wants arguments and drama on their wedding day. Our families are full of both daily. Everyone we have invited are pretty good at biting their tongue when needed, but we're still slightly afraid something might happen and we're just not having it. So, we have decided that if there is any drama, arguments, fighting, etc. on our wedding day, we will be kicking people out.

We know it sounds mean, which is why we don't want to put that on our invitations. I was thinking of just putting 'We're having a "zero argument" drama-free wedding! For more information, visit: [our eventual wedding website]' at the bottom of the invitations so I could go into detail on the site. Do you have any suggestions for how to word this?" - Kambria

We are no strangers to family and guest drama at weddings. Hell, we've got whole archives for family advice, family drama, and conflict resolution. People are people and people can bring the dramaz.

You're totally on the right path by nipping it in the bud early and diplomatically addressing the issue on your wedding website. Wedding websites are the best place to explain anything you want explained: dress codes, ceremony rituals, accommodations, and of course, any specific drama rules that you'll be putting in place. Let's talk about how to word it on the site itself.

Drama-free wedding explanation

I think your line on the invitation is great, so here's how I'd expand upon it on the wedding website:

We know that weddings can be a high-emotion time for everyone, so we'd like to make sure that the emotion stays positive and that everyone has a great, drama-free wedding experience. If you have any disagreements with other guests, we kindly ask you to put it aside for the wedding day and surrounding events so that we can all enjoy the celebrations without any negativity.

If there are any disputes or arguments, however, we will have someone escorting disrupting guests out. We definitely don't want to do this, but we want to make sure that the events stay as peaceful as possible.

Thank you so much for your cooperation and we appreciate all your love and support.

Have YOU experienced this kind of fighting drama between guests? What advice have you got for them?

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