Spring is almost here. Winter has dragged on -- seemingly forever -- but I see signs that it's just about over. Thank goodness! Everyone I know is ready to be done with cold, darkness and dreariness and ready to embrace warmth, light and new beginnings. I always like to start or renew something in the Spring, and you probably do too. Sometimes I adopt a healthier diet or start a new exercise program. Maybe you declutter your house or decide to lose some weight. And while those things are great, I want to encourage you (and me) to add one more item to that list - recharge or improve your marriage.

Whether your marriage is great, not-so-great* or somewhere in between, you can make small changes this Spring that will give it new life and bring joy to you and your husband. Here are some ideas for getting started:

* Picture your marriage "recharged." What would it look like if you could change one or two things in order to improve your marriage? What would be different? How would you feel? How would your husband feel? Really think about it and envision the difference that small but positive changes could make.

* Identify one or two changes that could make a difference in your marriage by the time summer rolls around. What could you do just a little bit differently? What could strengthen your marriage, enrich it, or make it more enjoyable for both of you? Maybe you need to simplify some things or say no to something in order to make time for you and your husband. Maybe the two of you need to touch more and kiss more. Maybe you need to make sex a priority. Or maybe you just need to set aside time to connect with your husband every day - beyond figuring out the school, soccer, church, and homework schedules! Every marriage is different, and the changes that can make a difference are unique to each one. So take some time to identify one or two changes you could work on this Spring that could make a real difference in yours.

* Figure out how to make those changes happen. Once you've decided what you want to do, figure out how you're going to do it. Making changes is hard -- that's why we haven't done it yet! But remember, we're talking about small changes -- not turning your entire life upside down! Even so, you need to figure out how to make it happen. So develop a plan. First, determine what you need -- time, organization, determination, courage? Then decide how you'll access the things you need. Will you need to clear some items from your family's schedule in order to make more time for your marriage? Do you need to get organized in order to reduce stress in your marriage and family? Or do you simply need to make the decision to move forward on a change and then do it? Finally, decide what steps you're going to take and when/how often you'll take them - and write them down. Put them on your calendar, schedule them, create a reminder on your phone - whatever will help you get started and keep going.

* Consider just making the changes you've decided to make, without talking about them. Sometimes your actions say more than your words ever could. So think about just moving forward with the changes you've decided to make, rather than talking them through with your husband. Not to keep anything from him, but simply to show by the things you do that you're committed to taking positive steps to benefit your marriage.

* Focus on the things you can change. If your marriage could use a bit of work (and whose marriage couldn't!), it's easy to focus on what your husband is doing wrong - or what he isn't doing right. But just for the next two or three months, while you're "recharging" for Spring, try not to focus on what he should be doing. Instead, focus on the positive changes you can make. You can't change what he thinks, says, feels or does, but you can change what you think, say, feel and do. And sometimes, that's all it takes to get the ball rolling in a positive direction.

* Have sex more often. Having sex regularly helps set an overall positive tone for your marriage. It helps the two of you connect emotionally. It sets your marriage apart from all of your other relationships, and reinforces your commitment to each other. Plus, it adds some fun and relaxation to your marriage. And please don't think that I'm saying "you need to have sex with your husband because he needs it." What I'm actually saying is " have sex with your husband regularly because you both need it." Sex is about you too.

Could your marriage use a bit of "recharging" this Spring? Are you thinking about making some small changes? If so, what steps do you plan to take? Please share your thoughts in the Comments - I'd love to hear from you.

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