10 Things NOT to Say to a Bride to Be

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Wedding planning is an exciting process; however, it's not all glitter, sparkles and fluffiness- it can also be a very stressful and emotional process. For some reason the sight of an engagement ring often results in people asking you a million questions and offering unsolicited advice. Whether it's your second cousin or co-worker, people seem to feel inclined to chime in with the least helpful things they could ever possibly say. Maybe they feel too comfortable? Maybe they genuinely think they are helping? Who knows, it's a mystery to the bridal world. With your big day creeping closer and closer the chances of you experiencing some of these comments are going to be high, our advice is: stay calm and silently judge them- you don't want to end up with four bodies in your utility room 6 weeks before the wedding. Here we go, 10 things NOT to say to a bride to be: "Oh wow. You're already engaged? You hardly know each other" Everyone is different, some people nevermarry and some marry after a month, you would think that people would just trust your judgement on this one. Some people might have your best interests at heart, but at this point people should just want to support you. Maybe they should just stick to more welcome topics like asking about the flower arrangements. "You're eating pizza? Are you sure you should be eating that?" Recommending a bridal boot camp to help tone up your arms and questioning your eating habits are two topics which should defiantly be avoided. Discussing a woman's weight has always been a major no go area, so why do people find it appropriate to question just before you are due to get married? Once again, they may have your best interests at heart, but you know your body and unless you start eating four loaves of bread a day there is no problem to fix."How much did all of this cost you, are you mad?!" Delightful, that's really helpful, thank you. Since when did all of your friends change their career paths to become accountants? If you wanted to discuss your wedding budget you would find a way to bring it up. The fact is weddings aren't cheap, but as long as you and your groom are happy with the cost it really isn't anyone else's business. "You must be magic to get him to settle down" I'm about to promise forever to this guy, I don't want to hear this. Just because you know the reasoning behind the grooms high school nickname doesn't mean you have the right to worry me with his dirty laundry. People go through all different phases in their life, it doesn't mean they can't settle down and move on. Unless we have a serious emergency, can we try and not add to my already out of control anxiety. "Why isn't Jen from Uni coming?" Jen from Uni isn't coming because we haven't had contact since 2006. Not everyone you have ever met can make the guest list. You don't want your special day to be full of catch-ups with old friends or awkward running's with Hilda from down the road who knows your mum and has babysat you twice. "I'm not a massive fan of that dress, so I'm going to wear this instead" Bridesmaidzilla's are a rare species but a dangerous one at that. Don't question my style, if I want to put you in a neon yellow ruffled dress I will. Smile, nod and hide the photo evidence. "Your wedding is going to cost me a fortune" Really? It's going to cost YOU a fortune? If you can't afford to come then that's fine, of course I'll be disappointed, but I'd much prefer your honesty rather than end up with a guilt trip. "That's your dress? Not my cup of tea, but I'm sure you'll look good!" If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. There are a million and one things you can comment on like the veil or shoes. Once that dress has been purchased there is no going back so the last thing I want to hear is a semi compliment/insult from Lancashire's version of Gok Wan. "So, are you going to have a baby?" Easy tiger. I still have a wedding to plan and people are buying baby grows. People have some strange obsession that babies are the next step after marriage, but really it's whatever I and my new hubby want- buying a home, a career or maybe traveling the world! "Did you know 50% of marriages fail?" No. Just no. Who on earth mentions the D-word in the middle of planning a wedding? Oh and that statistic is wrong, its 42%. No one wants to hear about the possible end of their happy ever after before it's even begun. So, that sums up some of the worst things you can say to a bride-to-be, has anyone said any of the above to you? Maybe you've heard something worse? Let us know in the comments below.

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